“How to win your unsaved spouse…how to lead your partner to Christ.” How to witness or give testimony to your mate.
Now the bottom line is this, that if we are going to have an exemplary testimony in the world, the hostile world, and if we’re going to be used to win people to Christ, then our lives have to be characterized by a certain basic characteristic.
What is it?
2:13 the first word? Submit. 2:18, servants, be submissive. 3:1, wives, be submissive.
A Christian wife should live with a difficult husband so that he is attracted to Christ by her behavior.
1. Attractive behavior involves submission.
2. Attractive behavior involves purity.
3. Attractive behavior involves reverence.
4. Attractive behavior involves not nagging.
Thus attractive behavior involves submission, purity, reverence toward God, and not nagging.
5. Attractive behavior involves a gentle and quiet spirit.
6. Attractive behavior involves doing what is right.
7. Attractive behavior involves an emphasis on the inner person over outward appearance
Likewise,3668 ye wives,1135 be in subjection5293 to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without thew word be won by the conversion391 of the wives
A self-denying holy life will do more to win those with whom we live in close intercourse than even holy words, and much more than debate and controversy. This seems to be the meaning of ἄνευ λόγου rather than the other possible interpretation, “without the preaching of the Word.” Be won; literally, be gained. Each soul converted is a gain to Christ, to the kingdom of heaven, to itself, in this case also to the wife who is the happy instrument of saving her husband (comp. 1 Corinthians 9:19, 20).
The word rendered “conversation” here, as elsewhere, means “conduct, behavior.” (Compare, on the whole subject, the teaching of St. Paul, Ephesians 5:22-24; Colossians 3:18; 1 Timothy 2:9-11.)
LIKEWISE or In the same way (3668) (homoios from hómoios = like, resembling) means similarly, likewise, of equal degree or manner and denoting perfect agreement. In like manner. Equally. Too. In the same way. Similar in some respect.
Resembling. In most of the NT uses homoios conveys the sense of “to do likewise”.
BE (let it be your habit to be) SUBMISSIVE TO YOUR OWN HUSBANDS:
Be submissive (5293) hupo = under + tasso = arrange in an orderly manner)
Used repeatedly by Peter – in the passive voice (as in this verse) means to submit oneself, to subordinate oneself, to obey, to place oneself under, to put oneself under orders, to align oneself under the authority of another. Iin this present use has in view the maintenance of God’s willed order, not personal inferiority of any kind. This word may denote either voluntary or forced behavior, but not any sense of inferiority.
In non-military use, hupotasso described a voluntary attitude of giving in, cooperating, assuming responsibility, or carrying a burden.
Submission focuses not on personality but position.
The principle of submission in presented in many different ways in the New Testament.
– Jesus submitted to His parents (Luke 2:51).
– Demons submitted to the disciples (Luke 10:17).
– Citizens should submit to government authority (Romans 13:1 and 5, Titus 3:1, 1 Peter 2:13).
– The universe will submit to Jesus (1 Corinthians 15:27 and Ephesians 1:22).
– Unseen spiritual beings submit to Jesus (1 Peter 3:22).
– Christians should submit to their church leaders (1 Corinthians 16:15-16 and 1 Peter 5:5).
– Wives should submit to husbands (Colossians 3:18, Titus 2:5, 1 Peter 3:5, and Ephesians 5:22-24).
– The church should submit to Jesus (Ephesians 5:24).
– Servants should submit to masters (Titus 2:9 and 1 Peter 2:18).
– Christians should submit to God (Hebrews 12:9 and James 4:7).
Submission involves at least four things.
First, it begins with an attitude of entrusting oneself to God The focus of our life must be on Jesus Christ. Second, submission requires respectful behavior (1Pe 3:1,2). Nagging is not respectful behavior. Third, submission involves the development of a godly character (1Pe 3:3-5Fourth, submission includes doing what is right (1Pe 3:6). It does not include violating other Scriptural principles. Submission is imperative for oneness in marriage.
As a result of Eve’s usurpation of Adam’s headship, part of the consequence of her sin was that her desire would be for her husband Genesis 3:16 could be interpreted as a passionate yearning or longing for one’s husband but the difficulty with that interpretation is fourfold:
(1) The statement by God is clearly given in the context of judgment for sin.
(2) The root word for “desire”according to Strong’s Hebrew lexicon means to “overflow” and (from another source) the Arabic root means “to control”, either definition lending itself to the interpretation that Eve’s desire would be to rule over Adam.
(3) The Greek translation for “desire” is the verb apostrepho can mean to turn away from or abandon a former relationship or association which certainly does not picture the woman longing for the man.
(4) The closest contextual use of the same Hebrew word is (Gen 4:7) where God tells Cain that sin’s “desire” is to rule over him but that he must master it. Clearly the meaning of desire here conveys a negative meaning of sin desiring to rule over, dominate and control Cain.